My top 3 tips: Dating & Sales
Rejection sucks.
So, that’s why Tinder, OK Cupid, Hinge & matchmakers have businesses.
Once the connection is facilitated, the actual date or meeting is much easier.
And in 10 years, I have set up hundreds of meetings for old my corp wellness biz, YogaBreak, my health coaching biz, AlexLovesHealth, and the various and sundry finance companies I’ve supported (my LinkedIn).
As you build whatever you’re building, whether career, biz, confidence or dating life, think about it this way:
My biggest tip: don’t see yourself, or your offer, as personal. See it as a role you are playing.
Because life’s a stage…
My top 3 tips for reaching out to people
#1 - Be empathetic.
Every email, LinkedIn, text, voice message - image you are receiving it. Send a test copy to yourself.
Is it readable? Is this something you'd skim? Does it repeatedly talk about YOU and not the other person?
Make it something you'd want to receive and respond to.
#2 - Get clear on the message you want to send.
I mean the implicit message.
For example: if you are reaching out to an old colleague to 'pick their brain' on your newest career switch, make sure you communicate a few things:
- I respect your time (by being brief in your email)
- I respect your experience & knowledge (by saying so, directly)
- I respect your schedule (by giving them a few dates/times, e.g., Mon., 4pm-4:20pm, Weds., 11-11:30am)
#3 - Make it easy for them.
If you're asking someone on a date, don't say "hey I'd love to take you out on Friday. Where should we go"?
No, absolutely not.
You are putting the onus on the other person to plan and choose.
To make it easy (my friend-girls and girl-friends have confirmed): time, place, and easy get out clause.
It is okay if they say no. But you want to get a yes or a no, in sales or dating. Not be in limbo, that sucks.
When you read the below, mind you, I haven't been single in almost a year...
Hey, meet me at Doc Holidays for a couple drinks in EV around 7:30pm Friday?
There, you addressed Location, Time, Context [drinks, not dinner] and Date.
You made it easy for them to decide yes/no.
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